When the narcissist loses power, it may happen that he puts in place not too ethical strategies to try to regain control of the victim. In this article, we find out what he could do and what his most common attitudes are.
What does a narcissist feel when he is ignored?
The first factor to understand is that the abandoned Narcissus becomes very insistent. In fact, he does not love when someone takes into consideration the hypothesis of living without him being his gravitational center! The no contact works very well in these cases, because it makes him feel completely powerless to any type of action that he will try to put in place.
If he realizes he is being ignored, he may react in the following ways:
- He’s gonna hoovering around all the places he knows you can hang out at. It is a very common behavior, that of meeting the narcissist “by chance”. The fact of seeing him pass near your work or near your home, is never a case, he knows well that you could react with surprise and hardly ignore him if he behaved like that.
- Narcissist’s flying monkeys, or all those people you have in common who might gather information for him about you or worse, will tend to speak ill of you with others. The latter attitude is due to the evil tongue of Narcissus who will seek revenge to put you in a bad light.
- It’ll block you from all sides. If it just fails to receive your attention in any way, then it will tend to block you on social networks and through any other communication channel. It’s no way to get rid of him, but… He’s gonna use this kind of strategy to see if you can really ignore him and if he sees that you’re serious then he’ll come back!
- To use victimhood: He’ll invent to feel bad, he’ll want you to worry about him. He’ll try to create guilt, which if you don’t respond to what he tells you, then you don’t have empathy.
The Narcissist Gives Up?
When the narcissist loses power he will also try other ways than those already mentioned to try to recover the dominion he had. And the surrender could be both a strategy and a real goodbye. Let’s see the two differences:
- When a narcissist gives up sometimes, he does it to make you think he’s sorry. So he’s going to try to apologize, say he made a mistake, and he wants to go back. Common are the sentences “I realized what I lost” or “nobody loves me as you love me” or anything that suggests a deposition of weapons on his part. That might confuse the victim, because she’s going to wonder if she stood up to him and somehow got him to change. The answer is no, Narcissus does not change. He’s just using another manipulation technique to get where he wants. Better to continue ignoring him.
- It could also give up definitively. When a narcissist collapses, it is possible to notice how isolation and suffering are the masters. But it will not be forever, in narcissism everything is always very relative, in fact it will immediately look for another prey on which to leverage and slowly get back on track. The returns may still be there, but if the no contact strategy is applied properly, then they will be less and less frequent. To the point of not knowing anything about him.
We can therefore deduce that the narcissist suffers when he is left, but that in some ways he expects it. In fact, many times a victim has decided to change course and has realized that with him he can never build a healthy relationship.
When the Narcissist Loses Power: Don’t Give Up!
In essence, when you discover a narcissist and notice that he no longer has any effect on you, it means that you have used the tactics of no contact in the optimal way. In short, the chains have broken, and you can finally see the light at the bottom of the tunnel.
It will not be easy to regain complete trust in the outside world. But it won’t be impossible either, there are people who are ready to fall in love and build beautiful relationships that aren’t as complex as a chess game.
There will also be times when you will have the doubt to step back, those suffering from narcissistic personality disorder know how to move the wires of guilt, do not let yourself be subjugated and continue on your way. You’ll see that if you keep walking, you can finally discover a new world.
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