Even the narcissist has his Achilles’ heel, in reality he has not only one but many more. The reason is that the narcissist is a very fragile person in reality that because of his emotional and psychological state is likely to collapse very easily.
Achilles’ Heel of the Narcissist: Indifference
The real problem with the manipulative narcissist is indifference. In fact, he wants people to have all the attention on him, but when one of them understands the game, avoiding giving it so much importance, his house of cards collapses.
The narcissist will start to feel lost and will try in every way to recover the lost attention. We are talking about a person also very proud, so he will not always return to the victim in question. Maybe he will seek nourishment from other prey or for the first time he will also respond with indifference just to try to see how much the victim has the “courage” to go.
But in reality, an attitude of coolness is unimportant could really destabilize it.
Achilles’ Heel of the Narcissist: The Loss of Power
Another thing that the narcissist cannot bear is the loss of power. Similar to indifference, but in this case much more general. He is a person who loves prestige, wants to have a lot of money and especially a lot of praise. If one of these things is missing, it starts to falter and feel powerless.
Let’s say he suddenly loses his job, this could be a gigantic problem. Not only for the fact that losing his job is a disgrace in itself, but above all because he will lose all the attention and energy benefits that this gave him.
The same could happen in the family, a narcissistic father who loses control over his children is another big Achilles’ Heel. He always tries to remain the undisputed King of the situation, he does not want anyone, not even the narrowest people, can do without him. But most of all, he doesn’t want them to make any decisions without confronting him.
Achilles’ Heel of the Narcissist: Love
A narcissist doesn’t know how to love, but some people who have traits, but cannot be defined pathological, try. Usually even with poor results.
To look good in today’s society, very often you have to play by the rules of the game, start a family and maybe even have children. Too bad that in order to create a real relationship, which is as much as possible similar to a healthy one, the narcissist will have to engage in trying to love someone. The question here is “does the narcissist know how to love?”
Narcissus becomes infatuated in some cases, he really believes that he has found love, but then his true nature comes out and consequently he will have no choice but to listen to it. Usually, when he decides to create a relationship, he flaunts and flaunts it, he tries to show others that he has finally found the person of his life. The fact is, he’s just trying to tell everyone that he’s reached the “age of reason” and that he’s finally settled down!
And again… when you ask questions about the relationship, he’ll show her as the best of all! No one will be happier than him but no one really knows what happens, because usually the narcissist then begins to triangulate, to devalue and to follow all the phases that masterfully learned to put in place. Which, by the way, in a situation like this, keeps the partner much more attached to him because, because of Narcissus’ manipulation, he will feel unable to find someone else to make him feel good as he should.
His prey is another weak point!
Yes! The victim is his true Achilles’ heel, especially when she’s smart enough to keep him in check and not be manipulated. Narcissus is always believed to be smarter than others, but there are people who slowly understand that the reality of the facts is very different and that he will not be able to continue forever to play with the feelings of others.
For this reason, if the victim learns to play it well and not to give the narcissist what he wants, to show himself available but not malleable, here he will remain incredulous. Obviously this attitude will not last long, in fact even if it will behave badly towards the partner will be sorry for a few seconds.
Tendentially when a narcissist fails he tries to recover ground but without trying too hard, when he must do too much effort to get what he wants will start to detach and look elsewhere.
And finally… Solitude
Narcissus at some point in his life, either realizes that there is a problem to be solved and gets help, or he remains irretrievably alone. There is no alternative, people leave at some point, the theater closes the curtain and he remains isolated.
This loneliness torments him, because it is not what he wants. It’s like taking away his nourishment, he feeds off people’s attentions, and if they’re gone at some point, he won’t know how to recover the attention he needs.
In the past, it was a bad example when husband and wife broke up and therefore, those who were living with a narcissist could no longer get rid of it. Fortunately, things have changed today and even if you feel love or affection towards these people, you can not take the trouble to try to cure their disorder. This is a job for a psychotherapist, so narcissus prey, at some point they have to turn the page to be happy again.
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