In this article, we will talk about how pathological narcissism and erectile dysfunction are closely related. In narcissism, in fact, this kind of disorders are frequent, so much so that some subjects risk becoming even powerless!
Narcissism and Erectile Dysfunction: How does sex live?
The narcissist’s sexual problems stem from his inability to love someone. The narcissist knows how to pretend to be in love, he is very able to make them believe their partners, but in reality this only serves to attract people into his network.
Relationships with partners are not an act of love, there is nothing spontaneous and emotions are banned. It’s just a kind of stage to demonstrate your physical prowess, beauty and skill. The narcissus in fact during the act does not focus on the pleasure of their partner but only ensures that it is all done in an impeccable manner.
He wants to be the best lover you’ve ever had, get compliments on his performance and be idolized. In exchange, his victim instills insecurities so that she doesn’t feel equal to him, talking about past experiences with, for example, better partners or putting any problems of lack of desire on their not being seductive enough.
Other times, and here we are talking about phallic narcissism, the narcissist cannot reach the peak of pleasure, the reasons can be different. Like not wanting to give that part of yourself to the partner or not letting go, all to have total control of the situation.
Lo stesso narcisista inoltre può vivere la sessualità con la sua vittima in base alla fase in cui si trova. Può quindi alternare periodi di alta intensità ad altri dove il contatto intimo diventa praticamente assente: in quest’ultimo caso è possibile che il narciso stia riversando le sue energie per trovare altre vittime, il tradimento infatti per lui non è nulla di sbagliato e si sente autorizzato a farlo senza provare alcun rimorso.
Narcissism and Erectile Dysfunction: Does pleasure on its own work?
Narcissists love anything that minimizes physical contact and feelings with other people. So the partner usually prefers to give himself pleasure in autonomy.
It’s something mechanical, without any involvement, so to be able to let go it needs more and more strong stimuli such as increasingly explicit videos. It is frequent that a person suffering from narcissism prefers practices other than usual, prefer to be ruthless dominators under the sheets: this to give their brain a strong enough stimulus compared to the classic relationships.
Despite this, in the long run, their brain no longer reacts to such stimuli as it should and therefore will not be able to feel any kind of interest towards the partner.
Narcissist During Sex: How Does It Behave?
The narcissist, even during the relationship, thinks only of his desires and demands that the partner adapt to his requests, whatever they may be. After that, he interrupts any kind of contact, as if to underline again his emotional detachment and his not needing the presence of others.
In fact, he does not really need to have intercourse: to feel physical pleasure, as mentioned before, he prefers more aseptic ways. When he gives himself is just to get to his petty purposes and nothing more!
The narcissist doesn’t kiss?
After the love bombing phase, the narcissist starts to avoid physical contact with his victim as much as possible. He therefore tends to avoid caresses, kisses, cuddles and all that is a symptom of pure and disinterested love and affection. Each action of narcissus has a precise purpose and, almost always, is to manipulate the person to bring her to do whatever she wants.
If he gives love and then denies it, it’s only to subdue his victim, make her dependent on him and then blame her for not being enough. The narcissist also blames the victim for this change, to make her feel unworthy of her love.
The person is therefore led to believe that she is incapable of being loved by not understanding the reality: a narcissus can never love you! Every step he takes towards you, every change, every romance or act of love is simply fiction, and as we’ve learned, narcissus is the best actor of all.
If you think you’re dealing with a pathological narcissist in your relationship, get help from an expert or at least friends and family. Once compelled, without good help, it becomes more difficult to get rid of it!
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