Even the narcissist, unable to feel love, has weaknesses. In this article we will try to understand what a narcissist does not stand and especially why. Let’s hope these tips help you find a balance. Not so much to piss off your narcissus, but as much as to try new paths to get better.
What Does a Narcissist Hate? The 8 Sore Points!
There are attitudes or situations that totally block the narcissist. They all tend to be very schematic, a bit like his Modus Operandi, and if put in place they could destabilize him.
Here are some examples:
- Being ignored: at the top of the list of things that make a narcissist lose his head there is just being ignored. They cannot accept that they are not considered interesting by someone so, if they find someone who is not impressed by them, they will try to attract their attention to increase their ego.
- Being denigrated or mocked: being mocked by the narcissist is something catastrophic. Especially if it happens in front of many people. Feeling like some kind of superhero can’t conceive of someone humiliating him like this. That’s because he usually denigrates other people.
- Those who manage to catch the attention or be more successful than him: they nourish a deep jealousy towards those who are naturally charismatic and brilliant. Successful people make him feel competitive and tend to belittle them or make up lies about them to feel superior.
- Do not have control: the narcissist is fixated with control and does not bear if something does not go as intended. But even if someone doesn’t act the way he thinks they should. Each of his actions should correspond to a precise reaction in the outside world and when what they had planned does not happen they can become angry and vindictive. This also happens with themselves if they fail to maintain total control of their emotions.
- Being rejected: This is not a possibility taken into consideration by the narcissus since he feels superior to all those around him. His strong self-esteem is then undermined when someone does not give in to his charm and manipulations.
- Truth without filters: Living in lies and constantly feeding lies to himself and others, the narcissus cannot accept the truth. Especially if that truth concerns him.
- Happiness of other people: narcissists are constantly unhappy so they can’t stand those who unlike them can enjoy life. They try to belittle them and bring them to their own level of sadness and frustration.
- Failure: Narcissist does not bear to fail, his life must be only studded with successes of which he can boast with his victims. Even when he fails, he never takes his fault and tries to dump it on other people. When there’s no one to blame, the narcissist can’t take his failure. And this, even if of little account, in his eyes becomes a very serious lack.
Indifference Kills the narcissist: But why can’t he bear it?
For the narcissist to be the victim of indifference is unusual, especially if this attitude comes from someone who has tried to manipulate or who in the past hung from his lips.
Treating him coldly prevents him from taking power over you and thus he gets to feel vulnerable, without the reins of the situation. When dealing with a narcissus, being able to keep your distance is complex as he tries to make it impossible. In order to provoke any reaction, it can come to harass its victims.
But once he finishes all his weapons to try to control you, the narcissist will be tormented by the idea of being able to control you. It could become his fixed nail and take him out.
What does a narcissist feel when he’s ignored?
Ignoring a narcissist will get him interested in you immediately. It seems absurd but for a person accustomed to having everyone in their hands the only person worthy of interest is the one who does not.
Being the object of interest of a narcissist, however, is not a good thing. His goal is just to charm you and add you to his puppet collection.
The situation changes when someone does not correspond in any way to the narcissist: that causes him suffering. For him the only moments of joy are those in which he struts, when he is in control of the situation and feels flattered.
Anyone who does not feel this reverence towards him in the long run becomes a target. His ego can’t take much of a situation where he’s treated like he doesn’t even exist.
What makes a narcissist panic?
Of course, even narcissists have their fears because while showing themselves strong and valiant in reality they are full of deep-rooted fears and insecurities. Theirs is just a mask, very credible but not at all real.
The narcissist’s biggest Achilles heel is being left, but even feeling love scares him a lot.
- When it comes to being abandoned, the narcissus don’t want his victims to get tired of him until he decides to get bored with them. For him, in fact, he would like to allow too much power and control of the situation to a person who cannot maneuver. Everything beyond his control scares him deeply: he is terrified of the unpredictable.
- To feel love for a narcissist is out of the question, he is incapable of love, only to himself feels such strong feelings. He may have feelings for someone, infatuations, but the relationship is always toxic to the other person. He can cheat or he can isolate his victim, for example. Likewise, he also makes unhappy (or especially) people for whom he has some positive feelings. Furthermore, he does so to keep them under control and prevent them from acting autonomously. The enslavement of the partner is in fact his dogma in love relations.
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